Posted by Daisym on November 2, 2004, at 21:29:05
In reply to Re: Question about In Session » Daisym, posted by Skittles on November 2, 2004, at 20:34:14
Hard to sort out, I couldn't tell you the difference between maternal and paternal, except gender maybe. But the reason I refer to it as maternal is that it is this need to be emotionally held and kept safe. To explore my feeling and even act out, knowing that therapy and my therapist are cool with that.
And then there is the whole question of secure vs. insecure attachment. And the golden fantasy of being perfectly cared for. The whole thing is hard and can be very painful. Because knowing what it feels like to have someone care, makes the rest of the time seem empty and endless. Finding other people to make an emotional investment in will make this attachment less painful, because you will be able to find comfort elsewhere.
I'd talk to her. Good therapist know how to help you with this. And post here. It really helps me when I'm feeling lonely.
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