Posted by cubic_me on October 18, 2004, at 15:20:13
In reply to Re: Other people's needs and me:vwoolf, posted by Susan47 on October 18, 2004, at 15:10:34
Hi vwolf,
This all sounds so confusing for you, especially when (like me) you don't show anyone how you really feel and are always playing to an audience. It has taken me 2 years to start to be able to identify feelings and thoughts and tell my T - I just couldn't do it before then. It will take a while, and is very frustrating, but slowly you will get used to the inequality in the relationship. I was only telling my T last week how I used to find it odd that I knew nothing about her when she knew nothing about me, but now I am more comfortable with that, and just use her as a kind of blank canvas to bounce my thoughts off.
Do you like your T in other ways? Do you think it is worth sticking with her until you get over this? Sometimes you can go through a phase of misunderstandings and it can knock you sideways, you don't think you'll ever get through it, but if you generally respect your T and like her, then you can push past it.
By the way, I have wierd sexuality issues, it doesn't make us any more wierd than the person down the street who likes to sweep the path twice a day (or whatever)!
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