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Re: envy, depression and hopelessness crushedout

Posted by Daisym on October 14, 2004, at 10:05:00

In reply to Re: envy, depression and hopelessness Skittles, posted by crushedout on October 13, 2004, at 21:00:52

Crushed,

I might be way off...but those material things you envy often represent security and success. There is nothing wrong with wanting nice things, but deep down, most of us want what goes with those things. I use to teach Childbirth education classes and every once in awhile a couple would come in that were so connected...like their spirits were in love almost. It made me so sad and I envied what they had. Not that I didn't have a husband, but that bliss...that closed circle these two people had created seemed so complete. It makes me ache still to think about that kind of all consuming, unconditional love.

It is rare. And I'm sure like all things, you have to work to keep it, once you find it.

I wonder if it isn't easier to let things roll off when most of your life is happy, because there is no space for the frustration and annoyance. When I'm unhappy, at least, everything is huge and everything is my fault or intentional.

I also think it is such a basic human need to be loved and nurtured by someone who doesn't demand that you reciprocate. But you reciprocate because you want to and you love this person too. I have to say that I see friends providing this kind of nurturing a lot more often for each other than spouses.

I guess I'm just thinking out loud this morning. I wish you happiness and love and nurturing. I'm sorry your current relationship is ending. It does hurt so be kind to yourself.

Post often if it helps you feel so not alone. I'm still here.

 

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