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Re: Phone Policies » Racer

Posted by Daisym on October 2, 2004, at 12:43:30

In reply to Re: Phone Policies » Daisym, posted by Racer on October 2, 2004, at 9:37:11

God, Racer, such vivid metaphors. A coffin? Those people really screwed with you! There ought to be a law...

I think if you are being retrained, this is a great way to do it. It meets her need to get you to think about how you are doing, not just push through and to then articulate it, even if it is "just" on the message machine. You leave her the option of calling if you need her, or she thinks you need her, but also of not calling if you don't. It is a great system, imo.

And I can see why you wouldn't want to call the "other" agency, they just made you feel worse and worse. So now you have to relearn the story of the stove, so to speak. I wrote this for my kids:

One child thinks a stove is bad, because she burned her hand, when it was hot. Her mother didn't keep her safe. One child thinks the stove is worthless, because nothing good ever came from it. Her mother didn't cook. It just sat there. But the third child knew that while the stove could be terribly dangerous, she also knew that this is where her mother made the hot chocolate she loved, and where the cookies she loved were baked. And her mother taught her to take great care around the stove and appreciate all the things it did for her.

Maybe you need to think of therapy as the stove and your therapist as the person who know how to make it work for you and keeps you safe as you are learning.

Sappy, yes, I know.

 

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