Posted by daisym on August 29, 2004, at 22:55:02
In reply to babbling about my new therapist, posted by lonelygal on August 29, 2004, at 17:39:15
I think you have to go back to basics and separate what a therapist can do for you and what friends do. Friends support and help, but your therapist can give you the space to explore yourself in a really intimate way. Most people have limits to what they will share with even their best friends.
I think building the relationship in therapy can be part of the actual "work." You discover many of your patterns and you might even discover why you do what you do.
I've talked more than a few times with my therapist about how the "world" views people in therapy or who admit to an attachment to their therapist. It goes against our societal view of being independent. But he argues that we need to work towards interdependency...giving and getting support from each other. If your friends haven't experienced this powerful relationship, they can't understand what a therapist could mean to you.
As far as the diagnosis goes, adjustment disorder is a catch-all diagnosis for insurance companies. Don't let it throw you. She has to put down something.
I think you have to ask yourself what you want from therapy and give your new therapist a chance. Stop worrying about what your friends think, maybe hang out here and talk to us instead. That doesn't mean shut out your friends, just maybe the subject of therapy is a closed one for a while.
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