Posted by Susan47 on August 21, 2004, at 11:01:01
In reply to Re: Don't know if anyone can help, but I'll try anyway, posted by lucy stone on August 21, 2004, at 6:39:07
I used to live in my head with the current guy watching me all the time too. Boyfriends, first husband... first hubby hurt me so badly that it took me about eight years to get him out. But honestly, families can hurt our self-esteem so badly that I believe it never occurred to me that anyone would respect me, so I looked for it in a rich fantasy. And the fantasy always had to do with men; I think because my father never respected me, he was the worst. He doesn't respect any female. Ah well, better he's out of my life.
I can't pin down when I started living in reality and gave up the fantasy part of myself. I suspect it has something to do with feeling respected and liked, and I suspect it began with my last therapist, bless him. I hope the fantasy never insinuates itself again, because if it does I will take it as warning that I need to work on self-respect. Thank you for helping me work this out; I never knew there were so many others struggling with the same issues. I wish I'd known when I was in my twenties, and better yet, my teens.
Pretty paints, you're lucky you know it's not a good thing happening in your head. Recognizing that, you can work on it. (((((prettypaints)))))
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