Posted by pegasus on August 16, 2004, at 11:45:33
In reply to Worst moments in therapy, posted by Dinah on August 15, 2004, at 0:11:42
I once (once) had a session with my T and my husband both present. It was horrifying, because my T behaved exactly the same way toward my husband as he always had toward me. He said some of the same little jokes, and used the same wordings and expressions. I felt like I was seeing behind the wizard's curtain, and I realized (I thought) that all of the special little things he said that I thought were for me, were things he said to everyone. I felt like such a dope, and all of a sudden terribly unimportant. That the one place where I felt a little special had suddenly and unexpectedly been exposed as an illusion, and I saw that it was only my own stupidity that had made any of it seem real in the first place.
And then, at the end of that session, we all realized that with my vacation and a work trip and my T's vacation, I wouldn't see him again for 7 weeks. I wanted to die. He asked if I was ok, and I said no. He said something about it being an honest answer, and then I had to leave. I felt so tossed to the wolves. After that I refused to have my husband come with me ever again.
We never did talk about that session in any detail. When I've referred to it being a bad one, he replied that it must have been really hard to talk about my private stuff with two people. But that wasn't it at all! Maybe one day I'll send him an email explaining what really hurt about that session.
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