Posted by Pfinstegg on August 14, 2004, at 23:11:42
In reply to Re: talking to who shows up... » Pfinstegg, posted by Dinah on August 14, 2004, at 22:31:02
Yes, I think I saw one of you earlier when you were about 4 or 5. But the one you put up tonight is much more interesting because you're older, and there's so much life and personality in it.. I know you look a lot different now- don't we all-. but I still think a person's smile and gaze-and how those make other people feel- essentially don't change throughout life. Now that I've had a careful look at that picture, I bet I would recognize you if I ran into you. I bet you think I wouldn't, but I might surprise you! Of course, you would have to give me that upward look- and the smile, too.
As to the goals of therapy I mentioned - you can answer a definite yes for two out of three- the secure connection, with all of its benefits in feeling safe in yourself, and also in freedom to love chosen others in your life even more deeply, and the greater use of your abilities and talents. That's a LOT! As far as the third one goes- the feeling of integration- that may not even be a goal of yours- that may seem more crucial to someone like me, who does have disturbing feelings of fragmentation at times. It sounds as if, even though it took nine years (so far) you
have actually been accomplishing in therapy what everyone wants to, but many don't. It doesn't sound like "maintenance" to me- *growth* would be a lot closer! (also, you're not finished yet)
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