Posted by shrinking violet on August 14, 2004, at 12:18:26
In reply to An awful Week (rant), posted by mair on August 13, 2004, at 17:26:13
Hi mair,
I'm sorry you've had such a hard week. :( How long are your secretary and T away?
It is hard in general to have T's go on vacation...while I've never felt that my T has abandoned me personally, per se, and I agree that she needs (and want her to have) time to herself and away from work, it is still hard to know that she isn't there (although she's left a way I can reach her, more often than not, if I need to, but I wouldn't dare). Maybe, though, it is good in a way when our T's "go away," because we then are forced to rely on ourselves and, at some point, we realize we CAN handle more than maybe we've realized when usually depending so much on one other person.
As for your secretary, I can understand the urge to make her feel guilty, BUT it might have been already difficult for her to take the vacation to begin with, knowing it would sort of leave you in the lurch, and it wouldn't be fair to add to that (I could be way off, as I don't know her obviously, but I know it's always hard for me to take a day off (even when I'm violently sick) b/c I feel so guilty for leaving others to have to cover for me). You should take this as a learning experience during which you've realized just how valuable she is and how lucky you are to have someone so competent working for you, and perhaps be a little nicer or more appreciative toward her during the year (no, I'm not a secretary *lol*).
Try to do something nice for yourself this week. I hope things get back to normal for you soon.
-SV
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