Posted by starlight on August 9, 2004, at 14:28:21
In reply to Starlight, posted by Susan47 on August 6, 2004, at 20:47:42
First of all, your childhood hypervigilance did an excellent job of protecting you and as an adult it can serve you as well. The problem is if you're hypervigilant all the time, it wears you down. I think identifying, acknowleging and appreciating that part of you is integral.
The next part of it, is putting yourself in the observer or witness mind. Instead of being caught up or engaging in all the things going on in your life (the egoic mind), separate yourself and watch, observe instead. Remove your mind from all the action and watch from a distance, it's an excellent tool. You might look for a book on Jyana Yoga, the yoga of self inquiry, it can help you understand that method.
Manipulation is inherent in human behavior. But when you become more aware of the actions you take you have better control over how you use it, which is really the more important factor - not to eliminate it entirely, but rather to know when and how to use it and for the right purposes.