Posted by Dinah on July 10, 2004, at 13:35:46
In reply to Re: Do you and your t. say l love you ever?, posted by NVDeb on July 10, 2004, at 12:31:25
Perhaps they all have short term very CBT oriented therapists? I can't imagine a therapist terminating a client for expressing loving feelings toward them. I don't think I'd want that therapist for my own! Loving feelings towards therapists are very common. As are sexual feelings and romantic feelings. I recommend the book "In Session" which discusses the feelings clients get for their therapists.
I know that there are therapists who have terminated clients who have admitted to falling "in love" with them or who have expressed sexual feelings towards them, but that is by no means all, or even a majority of therapists. And again, I think those therapists probably need some continuing education or supervision, as long as the client is respectful of their boundaries. In fact, I highly recommend a video Penny found if a therapist responds negatively to that sort of revelation:
http://www.apa.org/videos/4310570.html?CFID=2493388&CFTOKEN=89863392
However, as much as we might like our therapists to be part of our outside lives, therapeutic boundaries usually limit contact to the office. (Actually, I don't *want* my therapist in my outside life, but that's me.) So don't be distressed if she doesn't accept your invitation. She most likely won't. It's nothing personal, that's just standard procedure.
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