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Re: Therapy and gifts Miss Honeychurch

Posted by All Done on June 25, 2004, at 10:56:29

In reply to Therapy and gifts, posted by Miss Honeychurch on June 25, 2004, at 8:23:17

Miss Honey,

I was just about to post about my one-year therapy anniversary gift dilemma myself. I see him on Saturday, which is a couple of days before the actual date.

I really don't think a card is a bad thing at all. I know you worry about it ending up in your file, but have him read it while you are there. That way, even if he has to put it in your file, the words will always be in his memory. I bet it means a lot to him. And also, I think I saw GG post that she kept a copy of a card or letter in someone's file. Maybe that's what he does too, so he can take your card home and put it on his mantle :).

I gave my T a card at Christmastime and I asked him to read it right away. He seemed genuinely appreciative. This time, I'm thinking of branching out to a gift. Actually, I already bought it. It's a small, handcrafted wooden box. It's about the right size to hold a deck of cards or a pack of cigarettes. (Gosh, I hope he doesn't smoke, though :(.) Anyway, I'm going to couple it with a letter thanking him for giving me a safe place (him) to keep my most innermost thoughts, concerns, joys, etc. I want him to have a nice place to keep his valuable things, too. Hmm...I'm still not sure I have enough courage to give it to him, though.

Sigh, sorry to ramble on. I really encourage you to give him a card. He's got to appreciate the sentiment regardless of where the actual card ends up.

Or maybe you can make him something? That way, it's not quite the same as "buying" a gift in terms of boundaries (I'm not positive on that, though).

It's hard to know what to do. One thing that kk told me about the box was that if he can't accept it, I need to remember that it's not that he doesn't want to - it's that he *can't*. So, if that happens, I'm going to keep it myself and it will be a nice reminder of him taking good care of all my "stuff".

Good luck!

Laurie


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