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Re: Be Careful What You Wish For (long) mair

Posted by crushedout on June 2, 2004, at 22:21:48

In reply to Re: Be Careful What You Wish For (long) crushedout, posted by mair on June 2, 2004, at 20:47:56


i'm not sure my dream is really relevant to your situation but i'm sure i had it because i read your story. it was about an old friend of mine from high school who's been happily married for years to a man even i would consider marrying (and i'm a lesbian). i went to visit her and she had dumped him and had some new guy she was already living with and had decided not to feel bad about dumping her amazing husband. i told her that she had to grieve, she couldn't just replace him and pretend it didn't matter because it did.

she wanted to never feel bad. i don't know why she dumped him.

i would have thought that if i were in your situation (and my t told me she and her husband separated) it would renew my hopes of "marrying" my t and get me really excited. but i think i realized reading your post that her happy marriage (assuming she has one) gives me hope for marriage, and to have that hope shattered would be painful. also, i might be sad for her and worried about her (like you are) and have a hard time focusing on my problems which is what our therapy has to be about.

i think you should just keep talking this out with your t. it sounds like she's handling it very well and professionally, and i bet she will continue to do so.


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