Posted by pinkeye on May 20, 2004, at 15:42:45
In reply to Re: My marriage and my therapist » pinkeye, posted by Miss Honeychurch on May 20, 2004, at 14:25:14
Thanks Honey for understanding so well. My marriage right now is not that great. My husband is into a religious cult though he is a very good and warm person. I am not in love with him. We just get along well.
I am not sure if I am just looking for support for my endeavours from my therapist. I am not sure if we would have liked each other had we met in some other setting though. Though I would like to think that it has a very high probability.
> I know where you're coming from. I like my T a lot as a person. We like the same music, movies, we have the same sense of humor. I would LOVE to hang out with him in real life. But, you just have to accept it in your head that nothing will ever happen between you two, and would you want it to? If it did, it would mean he was putting his professeionalism and ethics aside and would that make you feel good that you had gotten treatment from a less than preofessional therapist?
> For all the times I wish I could hug my T or hear him give me physical compliment (something he has NEVER done. He compliments me on everything but appearance), I know the minute that he fulfilled any one of these fantasies I would run from the room screaming my head off.
> Though I am attracted to my T both mentally and physically, there is also a daddy component there that maybe you don't have with your therapist. The daddy thing helps in making me not want anything to happen.
> All I can say is that I was on the brink of divorce when I entered individual therapy (we've never done couples therapy) and now my marriage is stronger than ever, even with my attraction and past infatuation with my T. I really do think it is a phase.
> But it seems like you are infatuated with a former couples therapist? Let me ask you this and you don't have to answer if it's too personal. Is you husband supportive of you and your endeavors, etc? If he is not, perhaps you are longing for support, and you see that through the therapist. WHat is the state of your marriage now?