Posted by spoc on May 19, 2004, at 11:20:29
In reply to My marriage and my therapist, posted by pinkeye on May 18, 2004, at 19:25:24
I'm not married or in therapy (but should be in the latter; not sure about the former!), so what am I doing here?? I just wanted to say that from even just occasionally reading the Psych board and seeing how attached people get to their Ts and all they probably represent, I'm betting this is not uncommon and you are far from alone. And that maybe people just try to stay cognizant of the fact that the intense feelings are based on a level of knowledge/understanding of the T that isn't full or possibly even realistic. And that in the absence of serious marital problems, they use the principle of "a bird in the hand" to help them accept what is going on and what they need to keep in mind.
Sorry, that is probably not helpful at all, was just intuiting that yours must be a common struggle. Fallen4MyT may be a good one to share these feelings with, if she sees this. Good luck to you! From what I've seen you seem like a common sense person who will be as capable as any of keeping things in perspective. :- )