Posted by DaisyM on May 17, 2004, at 14:00:40
In reply to Abandonment Fear!, posted by Aphrodite on May 17, 2004, at 12:03:37
If you are looking for a way to open up to him, this is a great way! You say, "I'm surprised that I've found myself thinking about your comment..blah blah. And I think I'm worried that I'll get myself to open up to you and you will move and I will have to start over with someone else."
The first time I admitted this fear, I felt like an idiot, and then a very small child. My Therapist said he was glad I told him my fear. He did reassure me about staying with me "in it" and he said it was a huge theraputic developmental step to realize that it would be upsetting if he did leave. It meant I was becoming "attached." You think??
We've since had this conversation a million times, about my fear of him leaving. We had it again last Thursday.
So I encourage you to tell him you've been thinking about what he said. I'm sure it will be productive.