Posted by Racer on May 9, 2004, at 8:05:13
In reply to Re: Please be clear.... » 64bowtie, posted by finelinebob on May 9, 2004, at 4:44:16
And there you've hit on something that I know has been a big problem for me: not being able to acknowledge my pain, because it's *only* emotional and therefore not *real.* I think we do a real disservice to ourselves and others by looking for the quantifiable in our pain. It's like what you wrote about the people you worked with at CF, that their pain wasn't worse because they knew people who died, because we can't compare pain that way. It is as bad as we think it is, and when we try to talk ourselves out of it, we just hurt ourselves more.
Or, at least, that's the way it's been for me.
By the way, I haven't said it before, but "Welcome back!" I remember your site from way back before, because I have ties to the Calligraphic World around us. (Hermann Zapf was stuck in the states by the attacks, did you know that? He and his wife were here and couldn't get home again until they restarted air travel.) Glad you're sounding as though your feet are on the right path for you.