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Re: What happened today (very long)

Posted by Rigby on May 4, 2004, at 22:53:26

In reply to What happened today (very long), posted by crushedout on May 4, 2004, at 18:21:30

Hi Crushed,

I know there's a TON of details that we don't know about--that I don't know about--and I didn't read every word. I've got two general takes though--since you know I only mean to be supportive I hope you can take them even though they're kinda tough to hear:

1. You're wearing the woman down. Whether or not that's not supposed to happen I dunno--that's my impression though. She does seem on the brink of wondering if you and she are a good fit. Sadly, that's quite a different place than months before.

2. Since you never cut before and learned about it here, I think it may very well have been used as a ploy to manipulate and blame your therapist.

Your therapist is far from perfect but it seems like you almost are punishing her for not being able to be what you want her to be for you--a lover.

I guess my opinion is that either you learn big-time from what *you've* done here. Or you move on to another therapist. But there's a huge lost opportunity for growth. Again, she's not perfect but she doesn't seem so off track to me. I do feel that you blame her for a lot--and I think she's pushing--hard--for you to accept responsibility--maybe not 100% but nearly so in terms of your feelings and actions.

Sorry Crushed, them's my $.02. I hope it helps even if I sound a bit negatoidal.


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