Posted by tabitha on April 23, 2004, at 11:36:14
In reply to Re: Group therapy crush, posted by Medusa on April 23, 2004, at 2:37:29
> That aside ... what's in it for you if you bring this up? Is it possible that you'll find solutions or alternatives for the hyper-sensitivity, hurt, expectations, need for attention, reminders of past hurt, and critical feelings?
>Oh, I don't know, the group just seems to work better when we talk about any kind of reactions to each other. When people are holding back things it all just gets kind of stilted. I also hope I can break up the pieces of this pattern that cause trouble in other relationships. Group seems pretty useful for that. We also talked about all kinds of stuff about my childhood attachment issues, and how all this stuff started, and I think that would be good to share with them.
> Does it ever work for you to re-direct crushes?
I used to try to do that, when I got huge inconvenient crushes. I'd try to redirect onto someone safer-- such as a friend who lives across the country from me. That was quite a feat.
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