Posted by noa on April 6, 2004, at 9:09:11
In reply to I have a hard-on during therapy. I think she knows, posted by Chucky Adkins on April 5, 2004, at 19:31:03
Chuck,
You wrote a lot in your post and some of it may be lost because all the follow up focus is on the sexual aspects. But you also wrote:
>I told her that I don't like it when she stares at me. She said that it was because she cared about me and the issues we were discussing are serious enough that she looks at me intensely.
My reaction to this is that she didn't really respond to what you said about feeling uncomfortable with her staring at you--she stated why she stares, and assumes that is going to be helpful, but did she follow up with trying to understand the feelings you have when being stared at? And maybe even trying to accommodate you a bit by not staring so obviously?
>She likened her deep looks at me to those of my wife and said that I don't find anything unusual about her looks and wanted to know why I found her caring looks unusual. This conversation made me even more aroused.If I'm reading this correctly, it seems she was being a bit provocative with you---comparing her stares to the looks you get from your wife?! That draws an obvious sexual analogy, don't you think?
>I liked that I have this person who "cares" about me.
It is, indeed, very special to have someone care that much and pay total attention to us like that.
>I told my T that what had transpired felt very weird. She smiled and ended the session.
I hope you get a chance to discuss this further. I hope she can be less provocative and listen more to how the sessions feel for you.
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