Posted by Pfinstegg on March 11, 2004, at 21:29:28
In reply to Re: How do you feel about your T's boundaries? » pegasus, posted by Karen_kay on March 11, 2004, at 11:47:36
I feel I just HAVE to express my feelings about your therapy experience! It turned out to be a really great one, and in quite a short period of time. I personally think the depth of the feelings that both you and he were able to express were really important- and those *boundary crossings* were a crucial part of really making it a meaningful and growth-inducing experience. It's just the same with me: we both cross boundaries- not violate, but definitely *cross*. Without going into detail, it's when we have both expressed sudden strong feelings for each other that I feel that something wonderful has happened to me. I feel so lucky to have a T like that; it seems to me that much more pain and a sense of "not getting anywhere" happens when these feelings don't get expressed- or when the *fit* is poor, or most unhelpful, when the T is only expressing his/her own needs without regard to the importance of the therapy relationship. I'd just venture to say that you got what you needed from your T: you'll always have that- it will probably grow stronger and mean more to you as time goes on. And you also still have him for group- and individual sessions as needed. Anyway, I am definitely in your corner- it doesn't make much sense to argue too much about methods when the results are obviously terrific!
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