Posted by Karen_kay on March 11, 2004, at 6:53:21
In reply to Re: Here goes the nightmare.. » Karen_kay, posted by tinydancer on March 11, 2004, at 5:46:07
Actually I'm not very honest about things. I have a rather large problem with avoidance. So, for a while, most of our sessions would be chit chat because I would claim that "Nothing's wrong, I couldn't be better.."
I think that a lot of times, by him not having firmer boundaries, I felt guilty. I almost felt like I was "playing my games" with him as well, and he just didn't realize it. I think the only time that I felt at odds with his boundaries was when he called late that Sunday. It just seemed strange to me.
I agree that everyone needs something different, but also each person has to know where to "draw the line" as well. I don't get upset when I hear about relaxed boundaries, as I know how much they helped me to have a normal and healthy attachment. But, sometimes I do wonder if other therapists are actively trying to foster an "obsession" of sorts with the client. I was worried about thta with Bubba, but everything turned out fine. Then again, each client is different. (Don't think I'm directing this at you or anyone else in particular please. I'm just wondering out loud, you see..)
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