Posted by Elle2021 on January 15, 2004, at 0:17:24
In reply to Re: Yelling, not an option » Elle2021, posted by Dinah on January 14, 2004, at 18:43:13
All right, here, I went to a website and copy and pasted this below info. Let's go step by step and see how many of these traits I actually fit.
This is from the UK DSM, because I had trouble trying to find the American one.1. Neither desires nor enjoys close relationships, including being part of a family.
I desire them, just don't know how to have them.
2. Almost always chooses solitary activitiesPartially true, depends on my mood.
3. Has little, if any, interest in having sexual experiences with another person.
Not true, if I was married I would have sex.
4. Takes pleasure in few, if any, activitiesI like a lot of activities.
5. Lacks close friends or confidants other than first-degree relatives appears indifferent to the praise or criticism of othersOkay, this one fits. I don't have any really close friends and I am extremely guarded on what I tell people. But as for the criticism, I already explained that earlier. I am affected by it.
6. Shows emotional coldness, detachment, or flattened affectivity
Well, now this one could go either way. Sometimes I really emotional and other times I keep everything in.
So how many is that? Not enough for a diagnosis.
And, now for the thoughts section:
Typical Thoughts and Beliefs of the Schizoid/Schizotypal Personalities
“I hate being tied to other people.”
I don't hate it per se, just not overly fond of it.
“My privacy is more important to me than being close to others.”
True
“It’s best not to confide too much in others.”
True
“Relationships are always messy.”
Usually
“I manage best on my own and set my own standards.”
Yup
“Intimate relationships are unimportant to me.”
NO!! They are important and I want them.
Okay, so more of the thoughts fit, but not the actual traits. Good enough for me, I don't have this.> As I pointed out to my therapist, OCD itself involves magical thinking, undoing rituals, and some things that might be considered schizotypal if the client doesn't also have OCD. If they do, then that covers it pretty well.
Yes, OCD does involve magical thinking! How come he can't put that together??
In what ways do you think you're paranoid?
Well, I think it would kinda embarrassing to explain, plus it might give me away if my pdoc reads these boards. Hey, thats a paranoid thought right there. I guess I just always feel like people are talking bad about me, or like things are directed at me, even when other people hear the same thing and say they aren't directed at me.
>If you aren't delusional in your paranoia
Was slightly delusional ONCE, very briefly.
And yes, my mum was extremely over-protective.
> Most people fit some of the criteria of most every personality disorder. It's a matter of degree. That's why I think I'm eccentric, not schizotypal.I don't think your schizotypal either.
> And like you, I identify far more with borderline
Definitely the case with me. I fit just about every trait, but since I don't tell him how I "feel" he doesn't know all of that. Maybe thats why the incorrect dx.
> Next time he gets frustrated with you clamming up because he pushes too hard, remind him it's his fault for pushing too hard.
Well, usually I just sit and say nothing...even when he asks me questions...
>With a better therapist you'll be fine. Just look for a patient one.
I hope this new one will be patient with me. I am going to go in with an open mind.
> You'll be just fine, Elle. I can see you recovering from the shock already. You're way ahead of my schedule. :)
Oh it's just all my bad defense mechanisms, they do the trick everytime and I recover speedily. :) Just kidding!
Elle
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