Posted by gardenergirl on January 14, 2004, at 20:19:06
In reply to Re: snapping out of it, depression is selfish, posted by cordy on January 14, 2004, at 17:20:09
You might also consider apologizing for saying something that hurt her. Clearly that was not your intention, and it's the hurt that hurts, not necessarily that you said something others may not agree with. Whatever you believe about the source of depression, and there are many theories, being depressed is PAINFUL. There are NO easy answers to getting better. She may appreciate hearing your validation that what you said hurt without getting into a debate about whether or not you were right.
As others have said, the most helpful thing for those of us who are depressed for whatever reasons, is having someone accept and understand that we are in pain. And that in and of itself, without attempts to help "cure" it, is very valuable.
Take care and congratulations on being sensitive and caring enough to want to understand for your friend! That means a lot.
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