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Re: I'm in the mood to SI simple because your near me » Karen_kay

Posted by Elle2021 on January 5, 2004, at 6:05:09

In reply to Re: I'm in the mood to SI simple because your near me » Elle2021, posted by Karen_kay on January 4, 2004, at 23:51:32

Or just nod your head politely and agree with everything the person says. I like that trick a lot...Typical conversation..
> Person "So, you really are crazy."
> Me "Sure enough. Thank you so much for pointing it out. I wouldn't have noticed it if you hadn't told me. Now, do you have any advice at all that I could consider, because I don't hear enough from my doctor, therapist, family and other friends. Why don't you enlighten me?" (And I try to have a polite smile on my face when I am being condescending.) Eventually even really slow people get the hint. Soemtimes it takes a while, but they pick up on it. It's even better when they get angry, because I totally deny being condescending at all. I say I'm being sincere and looking for honest feedback.

Karen,
You are just too funny! And you remind me so much of myself. :) I am definitely going to try the conversation technique. It's just that mum thinks I adore unsolicited advice. I know she's just trying to help, but really I'm a big girl now. She tries to control every aspect of my life as if I am not capable of handling it myself (and at a time I wasn't, but I am now. I tried telling her that, but it's no use). Here's an example of her controlling behaviour:
It snowed about a foot and a half here and I have my first day of winter quarter tomorrow. Now, I had planned to drive myself there (college is about 35 minutes from where I live), BUT lo and behold, mum thought it best if she DRIVE me to school. At first, I tried to avoid an argument by saying, "Oh thanks, but thats not really necessary." Then she replied that it wasn't an offer, but a command that she was going to drive me. We had an arugment over it, so now, I am taking the bus. I haven't ever ridden the bus before...kind of nervous about that situation. Anyway, this is only ONE of the many ways she tries to control my life. She even said she didn't want me to get a job. If I did get one, then I would be able to move out and she would have to find another way to control me. Ugh, Karen I'm an adult now, I don't need my mummy to hold my hand anymore, but she just won't let go. I don't know what to do. I love her and I don't like arguing with her.
Elle


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