Posted by Karen_kay on December 18, 2003, at 13:18:52
In reply to Re: Feeling during therapy » Karen_kay, posted by Penny on December 18, 2003, at 11:57:31
It makes perfect sense. But, have you resolved the issues from your past? If not, then I think it is important to bring them up again. Why have you not brought them up? Do you feel comfortable with your current therapist? I finally told my therapist that he HAS to push me more to talk to him about things. He used to ask me "What are you thinking about?" and I would answer "Oh, I need a new pair of shoes" or stupid crap like that. We both knew that wasn't true. But, he didn't push the issue. Finally, now he does because I called him one day and said "I'm ready to start talking but you HAVE to push me harder." And he agreed. Just this week, I remembered something but I felt ashamed to admit it. So I was listing some things I remembered and I came to that one and just stopped. And I began to fiddle with my coffee cup. And he moved a little bit closer to me and said, "And..." And I was silent for about 30 seconds but I told him. Three months ago I would never have told him. NEVER!!! I'm so proud of myself! :) :) (That gets 2)
I think the important thing is that you should look at why you are avoiding opening up. My biggest reason is that I didn't want to lose the fact that my dad wasn't perfect. I didn't want to lose that aspect of my life. Also, I didn't want to open up to someone who doesn't have any type of emontional investment in me. That is something I still struggle with, but I can always lie to myself and believe that *maybe* he does. And another reason is just plain shame.
Ask yourself why you don't want to dive into the issues.....
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