Posted by shar on December 10, 2003, at 20:11:07
In reply to Why do I deserve the best?, posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 10, 2003, at 13:14:17
Why not?
It is very difficult to find solid answers in things of the mind.
Do you not feel every child deserves the best...every newborn deserves love and caring and guidance? Why?
Why would you, as a newborn, not deserve the same?
Only, you didn't get it, so you are where you are now. Why do you not STILL deserve what every other person deserves, no matter what their problems?
Plus, here's a secret about therapy: You have a right to get your money's worth. What a concept! Maybe even a little upsetting. However, once my therapist and I were fighting and she asked if I felt I was not getting my money's worth. I had never even thought of it that way! But, it is true. You are paying them to help you, like you would pay any doctor, except that it's 'head' work.
If you were going to have open heart surgery, and paid for the best, I would hope you'd get the surgeon's best effort! You'd certainly deserve it.
Hope this made some sense. and...p.s. I don't feel I deserve the best either and my therapist encourages me to think of it as an experiment. :)
Good wishes to you,
Shar
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