Posted by fallsfall on December 9, 2003, at 10:49:53
In reply to Re: I Babbled » fallsfall, posted by DaisyM on December 9, 2003, at 10:05:23
You tell him exactly what you know: That his cancelling the appointment may be activating fears that you have when people get sick. That you read the dependency article and you think that you are insecurely attached - what does he think? Is there something that the two of you can do to change that?
That will start the discussion. It should flow from there.
"It isn't like he could help it, or did it on purpose"
No one is "at fault" if you are insecurely attached. If the two of you think that it would be healthier for you to be securely attached, then that is something that you can work on together.
Just give him the thoughts that you have about all of this and go with the intention of bravely going a little past your comfort zone - and know that he will be with you to keep you safe. I think you are doing great.
(Mine just moved my appointment up 5 hours so I only have 46 hours to go!)
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