Posted by shar on December 3, 2003, at 21:14:15
In reply to Can't act before weekly session, posted by tabitha on December 2, 2003, at 23:50:41
>I expect he'll tell me I'm 'holding a resentment' which is a major no-no according to his AA beliefs. If you'll notice, that nicely echoes my own self-criticism. So.. an honest exchange seems impossible-- I think I'll just spend my energy defending my right to my feelings.
>Well, you may be holding a resentment, which is your very own to hold. Whatever his AA no-no is, belongs to him. Holding a resentment does not mean you are wrong. You may have well been wronged ( from which resentment is borne in some instances).
In AA (which I have been a part of for over a decade) one makes amends when it does not make other things worse. This may be a situation where making amends does make other things worse--namely, that you may be held accountable for his beliefs. And those are totally his.
Your work is just to get clear on where YOU are, regardless of where anybody else is.
Best wishes,
Shar
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