Posted by Dinah on November 7, 2003, at 9:44:16
In reply to Oh man., posted by kara lynne on November 6, 2003, at 23:03:55
I agree with Medusa that some real dual relationships are being set up here. I realize your counselor isn't a therapist and may not be bound by those rules, but those rules are there for a reason, because they're good for us whether or not we think so. :) You might want to discuss this with her.
As far as the distraction and everything goes, could there be something going on personally in her life? My therapist has occasionally been less than his best. They aren't supposed to let their personal lives interfere with therapy, and I'm sure they try their best. But they aren't perfect, and cancelling sessions because they had stuff going on that distracted them wouldn't be particularly helpful for me - I don't know about you. I'd feel abandoned.
Of course, I also felt it was my fault, that I was doind something wrong, when he seemed off. And if he could tell I was upset about it, he'd manage to convey that it wasn't my fault without burdening me with his problems.
Is it possible that something similar is going on? I'd try to talk that out with her.
But I'd also try to reassess how well the boundaries are holding.
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