Posted by fallsfall on September 29, 2003, at 16:26:44
In reply to Trust - A therapy homework, posted by Dinah on September 29, 2003, at 13:19:46
I think that you would need to be at a reasonably close level to say something like that. But if you are close I could see it working. Just like we're lonely for intimate relationships, our friends probably are, too.
I don't see how it would hurt their feelings. You are saying that you think they are cool enough that you want to know them better. Then you say that *you* have an issue - trust - and you are asking them for their help. That seems all positive to me.
It could backfire if they said that they weren't interested in being any closer with you - then your feelings would be hurt.
I think that I usually can tell when a relationship can go deeper. I wouldn't try it with someone who I didn't feel really compatable with. But, in a sense, if you never take a risk you never get anywhere.
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