Posted by Krissy P on March 14, 2003, at 0:56:01
In reply to Re: CBT - and me- - a query, posted by PuraVida on March 13, 2003, at 0:09:11
Hi, could it be that even though you felt it worthwhile and that you wanted and could make a difference, and they needed help, that maybe you were feeling responsible because you didn't join years before when you knew it was dying??
I am trying my hand at CBT here-bear with me :-)
I see a lot of doubting of yourself. (you asked)
I wonder what would happen if you did hang in there, continue to speak up, etc. I bet you would be the best candidate for a possible future regarding this organization? Maybe?
Just some thoughts, hope it helped:-)
Keep me posted please.
Kristen
==================================================================================================So, here is not so much a goal as a problem: I have been stressing because I have been active as a volunteer in a non-profit, and I'm not sure I want to continue. I do believe volunteer work is good for me (+1) and I can use it career wise (+1) but...I am frustrated. I got involved in this org. because it was worthwhile and needed help - it was dying, and run by a clique. I had not joined years before because of this. But I thought - maybe, I can make a difference. I have -we revived the club, last year, that is. But the old guard is still making blatently obvious "suits me" decisions, and I am the only one who speaks up. This year no one has renewed yet, and the board (I am on it) is making more dictator-like decisions to a dwindiling club. Thing is, this club is just a part of a larger community, and I am beginnning to get embarrassed that I am part of this self-serving board.
So, I want to quit - but this is where the CBT comes in. My shoulds, and others kick in - you just are too much of a perfectionist - that is the way life is! If you feel so strongly - stick it out - unless you are too weak... If you had better people skills, you could bring them around. SO, I say, no - I am not comfortable with this - I take a stand. But then - I think, I'll just go somewhere else, and the same will happen again. Is it me?
So, HELP is appreciated on the previous, if anyone has time or inclination to follow. I';d love to know candidly what you can see, CBT-wise, in my thoughts.
Thanks,
PV
poster:Krissy P
thread:208554
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