Posted by fayeroe on July 1, 2008, at 0:33:25
In reply to Re: guess we should have lost a pet not a father :, posted by maree on June 26, 2008, at 4:50:31
> This was an extremely hurtful comment. I too am grieving,,,for a pet. A pet who was with me for 17 years, longer than any person I have ever met, except my parents. My dog chose to love me, she did not have to love me, and it was for that that I loved her.
> Someone who has not had the love of a pet, cannot understand the incredible bond that can grow between you, and how, guilty an owner can feel, knowing that they were responsible for their pet's death.
> If I had maimed my mother so that she had no quality of life, I would have been in prison. If we chose to let her die,to free her from suffering, it would have been considered brave, and humane, I did that to my dog, and got away with it because my dog was just my possession.
> She suffered, I did not, but I am now, and have done for the past 5 years. Thjs grief I have not been able to come to terms with. How do I?
I have lost pets and I've lost parents. I lost a dog that was the best friend that I've ever had. I was his human for 15 tears.
I had my parents for 50+ years. I was devastated by all of my losses.
We all grieve differently and respecting one's choices is a part of the process of healing, for them and for ourselves.
I can't imagine that anyone could take umbradge due to the way someone posted in a moment of grief for the loss of their parents.
I am very sorry that this has happened. I feel sad for Babble.