Posted by ValerieF on November 10, 2003, at 8:39:26
In reply to Re: Feeling so Much pain over Breakup.. please help, posted by jeff g on November 7, 2003, at 22:12:04
Believe me, I really feel for you... I know that this is hard. When my ex broke up with me, I thought the same things: "how could these feelings change all of a sudden", "how could he tell me one minute that we should go away together and in the same night break it off"... I thought the same things and I still do sometimes. I feel like I was the one who did something wrong. Something that helps me is to get a piece of paper and write down the pros and cons of the relationship.... honestly! Try to think about things that made you upset with her or the relationship... Do you see a therapist. I see one and they can help you overcome your sorrow. When my break up happenned, I was miserable... I couldn't eat or sleep.. I just wanted to be alone... cried constantly... I wouldn't want to see anyone and started falling into a deeper depression.... My friends literally had to force me to do things. Even going to the mall was difficult because when I would buy something I would always think if my boyfriend would like it and I couldn't do that anymore. But each day got easier. It has been about 7 weeks since our break up... and I am better. Try to stay busy and get yourself in a routine. Do something that you used to enjoy before you met this girl. In our lives, there is a plan for us... and if you think on the positive side... you will probably find someone that you are trully head over heels for and will always be from day one. Accept the sorrow and feel what you are feeling. Without hurt and sorrow there wouldn't be any compassion!