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Re: Friends dead! » Sebastian

Posted by Dena on September 10, 2003, at 14:04:19

In reply to Re: Friends dead!, posted by Sebastian on September 9, 2003, at 22:35:00

Dear Sebastian -

The only thing I can give you is the best thing in the world: The love of God.

Don't write it off. Even if you've "tried God" before & it "didn't work", He is still & always will be the only source of comfort, truth & life. When it "doesn't work", that doesn't mean He isn't real, or good; it means that something is blocking us from Him (like unconfessed wrongs, bitterness against someone, untrust...).

I know this about anger - anger is a secondary emotion - that means that another, deeper emotion is behind the anger, & we use the anger to cover up what we're unable to face (usually some sort of fear is behind the anger). When I'm controlled by anger, I confess it to God - I tell Him everything, how I was hurt, how it's not fair, how I want to attack back, how it hurts, how I feel victimized. Then I leave it with Him. I ask Him directly to deal with it for me, & to show me what's behind the anger. For me, it's usually fear (like fear that I'll be hurt again, or fear that I'll be alone, or fear of not being protected...).

God is perfect love. The Bible tells us that "perfect love casts out fear".

I mean, when I'm angry & resentful, I've got two choices: to nurse that anger & let it grow & fester & turn me into a bitter person; or to turn the anger over to God & let Him have His way with me (& He is always faithful, unlike people).

This is my best answer. I hope you won't reject the idea without at least trying it. May you come to truly know Him & His peace for you.

Shalom, Dena


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