Posted by LynneDa on August 15, 2006, at 20:44:27
In reply to Re: What sort of responsibilities goes with age 10 » Kath, posted by Dinah on July 6, 2006, at 17:15:17
Dinah - Your last message(below) made me laugh so hard! I already assume I will have a starring role!!
I have a 10-year old girl with ADD and was searching for info when I came across your post. I have PMDD and take ADs and have lurked around these boards for a number of years.
Anyway . . . I write letters to my daughter periodically so that when she is in therapy as an older child or adult, maybe she will read them to her therapist and he/she can help her realize I really did try my best and I'm not the ogre she may remember & her behavior was not always tolerable either . . . LOL!
My 10-year old daughter has basic responsibilities like getting her breakfast, self-care, keeping her room clean, putting away her own laundry, but she also helps me when asked - helping me put away groceries, getting the mail each day, emptying the dishwasher, emptying the small trash cans into the big one, setting & clearing the table, taking most of the care of her bunny. I don't give her a weekly chore list per se and I agree it is fun when we can work on things together. I can't overload her with more than one thing at a time and she makes lots of lists due to her ADD.
Hope it is going well with your son. I am a horribly inconsistent disciplinarian and now that I am feeling better mentally, I am suddenly cracking down - which is really hard on both of us and hard for the rest of the family to watch. But I dread the teen years, so feel I have to get a handle on things now and giving her some responsibilities - and the corresponding respect when they are accomplished - is a good thing for her.
~ Lynne
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> Thanks Kath. :) I try very very hard, but sometimes I think it's absolutely impossible not to feature prominently in a child's future therapy.
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