Posted by LOOPS on April 11, 2005, at 15:47:16
In reply to Re: Expectations » LOOPS, posted by Larry Hoover on April 10, 2005, at 11:14:36
> > Trial and error is expensive though, and I seem to be still far from finding a nice, comfy solution. Maybe I expect too much!
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> > Loops
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> If I may comment on your situation, your expectation is a critical factor in determining satisfaction.
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> What brought you to have to face your intake of substances was a health problem. A problem of yours and yours alone, likely related to some kind of inherent vulnerability.
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> The vulnerability will remain, even if you learn to compromise or cope with it. I had a quirky old car that only I could start, but it remained a quirky old car, even when I got it to go. The vulnerability was still there.
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> Part of a nutritional coping strategy, or herbs, or whatever you choose, must be a cognitive readjustment. Call it aging. Call it an effect of living. Call it what you will, but being alive changes us. Expecting to go back to how you were when you were younger is capable of setting yourself up for disappointment. People in those old folks homes didn't get old in one day. They gradually changed to what they have become. Inappropriately clinging to ideas of youthful functionality can cloud your thinking and feeling reaction to how you are today.
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> Lar
>To be fair Larry I didn't have a great childhood and would never want to go backwards in time EVER! I also have no illusions about chances of a full recovery - I am mentally screwed up and have been for ages. HOwever I do think things can be improved, otherwise why are we all here?
My expectations are only in the management of symptoms, nothing more.
Loops
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