Posted by muffled on December 15, 2009, at 19:31:35
In reply to Re: being blocked again, posted by Dr. Bob on December 15, 2009, at 17:49:06
> IMO, the implication would be you want her to be able to continue to participate instead of being blocked. If it's her choice to be blocked, and it's respectful not to try to influence her, does that mean it's respectful for me to block her?
*Bob....OMG, you make me MENTAL! I actually think thats what I like about you as a person to interact with. Your obtuseness just slays me?! At my kids school, I love all the kids, but the challenging ones, I love em too!!! Some are driven crazy by those more obtuse kids, but I find them fascinating human beings. Its like a challenge or something.
How on EARTH did you come up w/THAT reasoning?????? Sometimes I can figure where the h you comming from(more often I cannot), but this one REALLY has me stumped?
I think it would be respectful for you to say that her words hurt you(IF in fact they did) and that you are trying your best (IF you are), and that you accept that you can be very frustrating apparently. You could say you respect her opinion, but cannot (understand?) it.
Stuff like that...
Blocking her summarily is just being kind of a bully IMHO...
Its like you want to communicate w/us as equals( as you should, your sh*t smells too) but then you throw your power around by blocking...
When I have a disagreement w/my T, we talk it thru, she doesn't banish me from her office...
> > Its like when one of my kids wacks a sibling. I say to them, say your sorry. They say sorry. ROFL, they are so NOT sorry and both they AND their sib knows they not. They just saying sorry to shut me up!
> Then why do you even bother asking them to say they're sorry?
*ROFL!!! I KNEW you were gonna ask that!
I say it, cuz its what my Mom said to me! I think its dumb as all get out, but I still do it!
Occassionally I do lecture them about what 'sorry' is about, but there is not point in doing it while they all agitated cuz they won't listen. So I lecture them later.(and they still barely listen-but I TRY!)
Also, depending on what happened, I'll talk to them about appropriate behaviour and WHY. I don't know that my son 'gets' it (hmmm, reminds me of Bob...) but I try.