Posted by Dinah on November 23, 2009, at 6:46:09
In reply to Re: editing posts after submission, posted by Dr. Bob on November 23, 2009, at 0:14:00
And say they have, and they have bad feelings, and they respond to what was posted in a civil but distressed manner while the other poster changes what they posted.
Now the insulted poster looks like a vindictive idiot. And worse yet, other posters would be saying to the original uncivil poster "oh you poor dear, I have no idea why anyone would be upset with you just for saying that you were offended." And you'd likely find it uncivil to say "Well, I was upset because the original post said xxxx."
Unless of course the victim stayed quiet about the injury.
I don't suppose anything I say will be of the smallest interest to you. Other than perhaps to cause you to do what I find offensive as quickly as possible. But I do not agree with what you are proposing. And to propose it for the reason you are proposing it, I find totally shocking. So that people can be uncivil and then fix it?
And you honestly believe that if I have read uncivil words, I'll feel better about them if they've been amended? I would likely feel better about them if the original poster apologized. I would feel nothing but contempt added to anger if the original poster, on top of insulting me, was cowardly enough to do so in such a way that they did not at least have the integrity to stand by their words and accept the consequences. Anger I can get over. Contempt, not so easily.
And they get to avoid consequences from you as well, so long as they hide their behavior fast enough.
You think this would make me feel *better* about them, or about you?!!!!!!!!!!!
I can't speak for anyone else. But better is not what I would feel.
I hope that others would help me out by preserving, one way or another, any words spoken against me in this manner. I'm not crazy about incivility, but I feel even more negatively about sneaky incivility.
I can't believe you're even suggesting this. It's like incivility in babblemail, only even worse, since posters can report incivility in a babblemail and hope to have that incivility acted upon. And they can keep their babblemail as proof.
This could lead to the same sort of taunting your buttons led to. Slightly better perhaps, since supposedly there would be a notice that the post was edited. But still enough to torment.
And that's not even an unintended byproduct of your proposal. It's the intent!
What has happened to you Dr. Bob?
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