Posted by gardenergirl on August 20, 2006, at 14:13:05
In reply to Re: I have two general admin suggestions » Dinah, posted by Toph on August 20, 2006, at 13:38:47
Radical acceptance doesn't mean anything goes. It means cognitively accepting that the reality and operating conditions you are in ARE the ones you are in. Wishing something was different or beating your head against the wall about it or directing a great deal of your energy trying to change reality would mean you are not accepting the conditions. And you would be investing a great deal of emotional, cognitive, and perhaps physcial energy that can cause increased stress or could be used in ways that are more meaningful to you. (hypothetical "you") It's more of a way to manage emotions when there are things that are outside of your control.
So as a deputy on admin, radical acceptance could involve accepting that even though you wish that no one ever posted anything that put anyone else down or otherwise did not follow the rules of the site, these things DO actually happen. Getting upset about it sucks up emotional energy that would be freed up if I accepted that this was going to continue to happen, and I was going to continue to have to take administrative actions as long as I am a deputy. Even if I don't like something I have to do. Even if I wish sometimes that somebody (hypothetical "somebody") would just stop or just "get it". Radical acceptance would help me realize that someone is NOT stopping and may not EVER "get it". Or chooses to act they way they do. Despite how much I might wish things were different.
Hope that helps.