Posted by Dr. Bob on August 15, 2006, at 2:30:23
In reply to Re: civility, posted by cloudydaze on August 12, 2006, at 16:20:25
> > I considered it jumping to a conclusion because I didn't think you could really know what he felt, and I thought moderators might have felt accused or put down by that.
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> So, are you jumping to conclusions about how the moderators feel now? I think there was enough evidence there for me to draw that conclusion. Do you think anyone ever REALLY knows how anyone else feels? No, they don't - that's why one has to draw one's own conclusion sometimes.If someone doesn't know something, they don't have to draw a conclusion. They may, but then they don't have to post it.
I suppose you could call deciding what could lead others to feel accused or put down to be jumping to conclusions. But I need to do that to administrate here.
> > > i do think you don't like me
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> > One way to rephrase that as an I-statement would be:
> >
> > > i do feel disliked by you
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> no, i still don't understand. How is it that me expressing how I feel is jumping to a conclusion?
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> jumping to a conclusion means "to guess the facts about a situation without having enough information". However, when it comes to HOW I PERSONALLY FEEL, I have all the information I need. You cannot tell me how I do or do not feel - I don't care what kind of degree you have. You are no expert on me.Thinking something isn't having a feeling. Thinking I don't like you is guessing the facts about a situation (how I feel about you) without having enough information. Like I can't know how you feel, you can't know how I feel, including how I feel about you.
> what I don't need is the stress i get from this board.
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> This is not the place for me, and I have found a place that is for me. I couldn't leave without expressing myself properly, now, could I?I'm sorry if you feel disempowered here, but I do think it's necessary to limit freedom of speech and to enforce some rules, and I understand that can be stressful. I'm glad you've found an alternative that's more for you. Best wishes,
Bob
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