Posted by gardenergirl on August 3, 2006, at 12:54:58
In reply to Re: Suggesting violence--**trigger: crude**, posted by cloudydaze on August 2, 2006, at 23:54:00
> Once again, it's not supposed to be about violence - heck, it's not even REALLY about sexual stuff. It's just about someone's attitude towards authority. It's unfortunate that you took it another way.
I recognized the joke and understood very well what it was about from the very beginning. But words matter. And choosing a behavior in the light of a feeling and belief matters.
You wrote that it's "unfortunate" that I took the joke as I did. I have to ask--unfortunate for whom? I feel quite fortunate whenever I experience an authentic feeling and feel confident enough to express it when I choose to.
> Why is it okay and acceptable here to talk about hurting ourselves, but not ok to make a reference to violence toward others (esp since it was not meant to be serious)? Is hurting oneself more acceptable....why?
Here's how I view it. The former is an inward, self-contained behavior or urge that does not infringe on anyone else's rights or safety. The latter is an outward behavior directed towards others. It does infringe on others rights and safety regardless of whether it's a serious threat or not.