Posted by laima on July 27, 2006, at 22:46:01
In reply to Re: question/comment, posted by cloudydaze on July 27, 2006, at 17:36:07
It's a wonderful site with lots of wonderful people- but it's rather near impossible to always be perfect? Especially when it keeps getting back to "rule adherence" instead of trying to discerne people's feelings and sincerest, earnest, kind intentions or expressions? Or why someone posted what they did, and are they in touble, etc? Yes, some posters won't necessarily have kind intentions, but I gather most do. Will the legions of members and readers, very diverse, and with so many who openly identify themselves as having emotional issues, ever be in full agreement, and free of feeling any and all plausable offenses? I am skeptical. What if someone says something "uncivil" inadvertently, while in great pain, and then, instead of offering support or alternate views, people jump to attack and accuse, "Rules broken!!! I found a place where rules were broken!!! Look!!!"? Then how does the original person who posted feel? Ostracized? How is that supportive or helpful? I imagine it could spark a dangerous downward spiral for that person. Looking around here on Administration in effort to learn about "rules", I immediately easily found an example or two of situations that didn't appear to be problems at all until they were "discovered" and "reported". Sure hope I'm delusional to imagine anyone might get any smidgeon of satisfaction over that kind of discovery and report. My lasting impression is, the site is apparently primarily about "rules"--that's where I keep seeing the most impassioned posts and the most emphasis. "Rules" alone do not make a great or perfect community; we should take a few lessons from history. So, the problem brought up in this thread troubles me, too. I just don't understand what this is supposed to be about anymore.