Posted by alexandra_k on April 25, 2005, at 21:01:57
In reply to Re: my vote » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on April 25, 2005, at 20:30:58
We are crossing posts...
> Thank you for that, Alexandra. For saying that you know that I don't want people's opinions to be influenced by me. Well, maybe by the brilliance of my persuasive arguments, but not by me. I never like that idea.
Oh Dinah I KNEW that. I mean really and truely. I knew you would be appalled at my pointing it out. But I really did think that that was what was happening. I was worried about how you might take my saying that. I worried a bit that you would see it as a further reason to remove yourself. But I hoped, I really hoped that you would see it as a reason to take a deep breath before posting and to post what you thought more than how appalled you were at the idea. Not that they are mutually exclusive. I just mean that the sheer force with which you write about how very offended you are at the very idea is what brings out that reaction in people (IMO) - and I guess I figured that you didn't consciously realise that. Because I knew you would find the very idea of that repugnant.
> I'm sorry if I overreact. I run smack dab into two opposing forces that are very important to me. My love of Babble, which is fierce, and my ideals of community, which is equally strong. It distresses me a great deal when something like that happens.
Its ok. I have been known to get VERY VERY wound up about things that are important to me as well. It really is very clear that it is because you care so very much. I'm sorry for your distress. Really. But (once again) I do think that the answer is to stay here and continue to post what you think (and I do believe it can be done even within the amended civility guidelines).
> I didn't say I'd leave Babble forever. I actually made the decision to stay at Babble regardless.
YAY!! OH YAY!!!
>But whenever this topic comes up, it so disorders my world and the natural order of things that I need to step away for a while. Especially when the new Babble regulations about this board inexplicably (to me) seem to require that I remain silent.
Oh, no. I don't think that is the intention of them. It is just words like 'glass ceiling' and 'exclusionary' and that... Well, that is my understanding anyway. But if you clearly define what you mean by those terms... Or just remove those terms altogether... I think there is still scope to express ones opposition.
> I do wish Dr. Bob would have a community expert weigh in on the idea. My therapist happens to be a community expert...
Heh heh. And he agrees with you already, no doubt ;-)
I actually wonder if he has been changing his mind on this given that he doesn't seem to have set one up yet...