Posted by Toph on February 22, 2005, at 1:49:28
In reply to Re: working things out, posted by Dr. Bob on February 22, 2005, at 1:09:09
> That use of "BLOCK" was interesting, one way to look at it is that blocking the old story facilitates a new one...
I confess that it is kind of a thrill when you notice my posts. Why is that anyway? Believe it or not it's kind of like the illusion that God answers your prayers every now and then. It keeps you praying.
Not that you're God or anything.
It's the whole facilitator thing that bugs me . You might as well have said, "blocking the old story coerces a new one..." It has the paradoxical effect of bringing out the rebelliousness in me and probably others, most of whom are no longer with us. The word facilitate implies that you have a conscious design to change us.
But if I am truely honest I do seek your approval as much as I hate to admit it Bob. If I may venture into object relations theory (amateur that I may be) the idealization of you as a parental object is a need that you use to get us to conform to your family norms. Then as we mature (on PB)we integrate this belief system as our own thereby reducing the need for an idealized other. We incrimentally through a system of rewards and punishments (maybe I'm unwittingly talking about behaviorism) into better citizens as the separation struggle is ameliorated.
Jeez, I'm glad I returned to social work.
What am I tring to say here? I hope if I am entering a new chapter at PB, it has less to do with wanting to please you as it does with wanting to stay with my friends. While I may seek your approval, I am devastated (maybe a little strong)when another Babbler thinks I am some kind of a jerk, witness the Atticus fiasco.
It's late, I let the dog out, and here I am having this imaginary conversation with Bob. Surreal. Hope at least some of it will make sense in the morning.