Posted by alexandra_k on February 21, 2005, at 18:45:02
In reply to Re: Civility or censorship? I'm surprised » AuntieMel, posted by Dinah on February 21, 2005, at 18:09:49
I guess that wasn't directed at anyone in particular - more a comment on a process that *some* (unspecified) people partake in - which may be why it wasn't uncivil ;-)
But yeah, I agree. The *manner* is important. It isn't so much *what* you have to say as *why* you are saying it and the *way* in which you go about saying it. If you do want a dialogue and are open to others opinions then that comes across very differently to when you are trying to convince them of your opinions or facts or whatever.
The whole tone is different.
Something I need to get better at myself is asking myself 'why am I posting this' before I hit 'submit'. What effect is this likely to have on people? If it is likely to have a negative effect then do I at least consider that a greater good could come of it???
And if it is the latter then there is always the risk that it may blow up in my face.