Posted by Dr. Bob on February 17, 2005, at 20:36:02
In reply to Re: exclusion=bad » Dr. Bob, posted by Toph on February 16, 2005, at 10:41:00
> > Please don't be sarcastic or post information that you know to be false.
> You never did address my concern. I never said that Toph wasn't being sarcastic. I said that you may be jumping to conclusions about his understanding of the application of the gated communities.
Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that he understood. I didn't know if he did or not. But I did want him to understand that if he did understand, then I didn't want him to do that.
> My understanding of Bob's new rule is that you are no longer allowed to say that gated communities are a bad idea because it would logically follow that you were saying that people who belonged to gated communities were bad, and that would be uncivil.
> If my understanding is wrong, Dr. Bob, I hope that you will take the time to correct my understanding
That's not a new rule. There is of course a difference between the idea of gated communities and the people who might belong to them.
> your short rebukes trigger huge transference reactions in me. They conjer up similar strident orders like, "clean your room,"finish your plate,"because I said so,""stop fighting" and "shut your big trap." These concise instructions were occasionally accompanied by a swift whack on the head with the heal of a shoe or a firm punch in the shoulder by another authority figure. Perhaps you can see why I feel like you dispise me sometimes and why your words resonate so that I have to lash out in a defensive posture. I apologize for being so dramatic all the time but drama is the story of my life.
Thanks for reflecting on this. I don't despise you. I just want to minimize the fighting here. How about a new chapter in your story? :-)