Posted by Toph on February 16, 2005, at 10:41:00
In reply to Re: inclusion=good; exclusion=bad, posted by Dr. Bob on February 16, 2005, at 2:04:57
Massification? For a moment I thought you'd gone Catholic on me Bob. Not sure what you're saying with that. Do psychologists actually talk to each other that way?
Sorry that I went ballistic, thanks for your patience. I try to stay away from Admin as much as possible, but somehow I must be an angry man or something.
I relize that this should probably be on PBP, but I think it may explain why people react so explosively when reprimanded here. When you give a PBC or block, you give terse admonitions or demands: "be civil," "don't accuse others," "don't be sarcastic," etc. without a lengthy explanation like, "Toph, I appreciate your views , but I would prefer that you not use a sarcastic tone as that upsets me and I consider it uncivil." Here's my thought, I am not sure what transference is but I see it discussed on PBP a lot. From what little I know, your short rebukes trigger huge transference reactions in me. They conjer up similar strident orders like, "clean your room,"finish your plate,"because I said so,""stop fighting" and "shut your big trap." These concise instructions were occasionally accompanied by a swift whack on the head with the heal of a shoe or a firm punch in the shoulder by another authority figure. Perhaps you can see why I feel like you dispise me sometimes and why your words resonate so that I have to lash out in a defensive posture. I apologize for being so dramatic all the time but drama is the story of my life.