Posted by gardenergirl on December 4, 2004, at 23:58:12
In reply to Lou's reply to to Dr. Hsiung's reply to Lou-B » Dr. Bob, posted by Lou Pilder on December 4, 2004, at 9:42:18
> I also do not think or believe that it is a sound mental health practice to prescribe to any system of logic that says that since one post by that poster is unacceptable, then all the rest of the posts by that poster can be left unaddressed. If they are left unaddressed then I believe that others could have the potential to think that a post is acceptable when it is not.
Lou, I'm going to take one of your points and make it more general for the sake of my point. Certainly in recent cases, all or nearly all of certain posters' posts were viewed as unacceptable by many in the community. But what about a questionable post by someone who generally is civil? Does this mean that all of their posts must now be scrutinized by Dr. Bob?
While I do think it's unfortunate that all of certain poster's recent posts were deemed "a first offense", I'm not sure why it is necessary for Dr. Bob to provide a seal of approval or disapproval for posts. I think a fair number of the community provided validation that the posts in question were not acceptable to the community. I did that myself in my responses to Herman Munster and to Shalom34Israel. I voiced my feelings about their posts.
>I am still hurting from posts here that you have not addressed as to the acceptability or not even after I have posted and emailed you to do so and since you have not addressed them, one here could have the potential to think that the posts about me are acceptable by you which have tthe potential to defame me and humiliate me.
If I may offer an interpretation here, I think the above may be the crux of the matter for you. I can tell you are upset and perhaps frustrated that Dr. Bob has not responded to all of your inquiries. I can also tell that your inquiries are very important to you. Can you accept validation from others instead of Dr. Bob? Does that help at all? In some ways, at least to me, validation from my peers is more valuable than that from an authority figure.
At any rate, I feel for you in your frustration. Are there still inquiries you have made that have not been addressed by Dr. Bob? Perhaps you could consolidate them and send them via email to him? I would suggest you could also consolidate them and put them in a post, but I don't know how that might be affected by the new rule.