Posted by Toph on October 13, 2004, at 14:31:02
In reply to Re: group dynamic, posted by Dr. Bob on October 13, 2004, at 10:03:14
> > > > idealization ... It is very easy to fall into the trap.
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> That's an interesting theory, that idealization could be felt as pressure. I think what he meant, however, was the leader also seeing himself or herself as ideal.
Would you please clarify why the leader sees himself as ideal? This seems to be the other side of Weinberg's sword - is it that the leader develops an illusionary belief that he is perfect, available, or tolerant, when in actuality he is less than ideal as he could make a mistake, need to distance himself from his stressful group or impulsively say something sarcastic, for example?
> Different people may "hold" for the group (by expressing or being seen as expressing) these feelings at different times. Maybe at that time it served a function to see me as holding them?
So, by this, do you mean that, for example, I felt that it was ubsurd for newwife to suggest that problem posters be banished, and when you innocently queried her to clarify if this were the consequence she intended, I then transferred my distain, frustration, want to be sarcastic, whatever for newwife on to you and your motives?